intertext

I didn't mean to make it sound as if I was placating some kind of selfishness at all, or to imply that it was about you, or to sound preachy or something! It not being about you is what I am complimenting ... feeling helpless is really awful, and I know what you mean about "knowing." I meant to communicate understanding your worry and concern, but the words didn't quite match up to what I meant, I think.