Winter Thoughts

[intertext]

Walking to work this morning, and noticing the autumn leaves, thinking that one serious winter gale and they'll all be gone...

Worrying about friends. One I feel is drifting away, stretched almost to the limit. All I can do is keep making rather footling offers of help, of rides in the car... stupid, useless, politely refused. But what else can I do? I have nothing else to give except care and thoughts, but this friend is intensely private, self-sufficient.

Then, there are my old friends, who are now facing the death of a son. Unimaginable.

Marking. Dear student: if you think that uploading a file with the name "send that shit" is in any way appropriate, I have news for you. No love, ... me.

Taking the dogs for a walk this afternoon in almost-darkness. Realizing that winter is really almost here




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Comments

[sartorias.livejournal.com]

Oh I am so sorry for your friends--so very sorry.

[wordweaverlynn.livejournal.com]

All you can do for the first friend is go on being there and not take it personally; IMX, people like that (like me) do come back when they've dealt with the pain in private. It can take years.

As for your newly bereft friends. I am so sorry. Just be aware that the pain does not go away nearly as rapidly as the condolences do. Being supportive of them in six weeks or six months will be greatly appreciated.

[superfoo.livejournal.com]

That is awful - you are a great friend and your presence and sympathy and not backing out on painful times is steadfast and, well every adjective that I can think of right now that means "good" or "amazing" sounds silly in this context, but hopefully you get what I am trying to say. We love you and appreciate you tons (I know this for a fact and can try to measure it empirically if you'd like).

[lidocafe.livejournal.com]

Lunch tomorrow?

[lady-schrapnell.livejournal.com]

God, that's a tough situation - so hard to want to help and not see a way to do it. Can't even imagine the pain of the couple losing their son.